For many of us, our reluctance to make needed changes stems not from an unwillingness to sacrifice for long term gain, but rather from a fear that such changes will lower us in the esteem of others. We are deeply invested in activities and possessions which signal our status and abilities. We would rather suffer greatly, and have our families suffer greatly, than risk a potential down click in perceived social rank. Perhaps this is why many of us delay making needed changes until after a significant life event, retirement or a move away from our community. Such delay is tragic on many levels.
So, how do we overcome this fear of what others might think so as to take needed action? Pithy advice in the vein of “feel the fear and do it anyway” has not helped me. I must repeatedly return to my faith that it is better to seek the approval of God than the approval of man… and I still struggle.
In Simple Life Reboot, Dave and I share our challenges in the hope that such will encourage our readers. Additional resources on this topic include work by Brene Brown. Brene speaks on authenticity and vulnerability and has written a terrific book, I Thought It Was Just Me (but it isn’t): Making the Journey from “What Will People Think?” to “I Am Enough”. Another great resource is Joshua Becker. Joshua Becker writes at “Becoming Minimalist” and has an insightful post addressing communicating with family members about making changes in Your Son/Daughter is a Minimalist.
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Originally posted on http://SimpleLifeReboot.com